Something in your life keeps asking for your attention.
I’m Dr. Ali Pickover, a licensed clinical psychologist providing therapy in New Jersey, New York, and in participating PSYPACT states.
I work with individuals and couples navigating anxiety, depression, grief, relationship difficulties, and major life transitions. My practice brings dedicated expertise to trauma, relationship patterns, and postpartum mental health.
Together, we’ll clarify the underlying causes of distress, combining emotional depth with practical frameworks to restore clarity and self-respect.
What brings people here
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For past experiences that still follow you into the present, whether through fear, anxiety, numbness, guardedness, flashbacks, shame, or feeling unequipped to face life’s challenges. Utilizing evidence-based psychotherapies, including Prolonged Exposure (PE) and trauma-informed cognitive frameworks, we work to safely process these experiences, alleviate distressing symptoms, and reclaim a sense of safety and autonomy.
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For recurring relationship issues like codependency, people-pleasing, resentment, emotional distance, or the painful sense that you keep losing yourself in partnerships. This space also supports healing after relationships that were abusive, destabilizing, or ending in divorce, betrayal, and grief. Drawing from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Interpersonal Psychotherapy (IPT) principles, we look beneath the surface of these relational dynamics to break painful cycles and foster secure, enduring connections.
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For those navigating the painful complexities of fertility challenges and pregnancy loss, as well as pregnant women and new mothers (and fathers) experiencing postpartum anxiety, postpartum depression, or birth trauma. The path to and through parenthood brings profound psychological and identity shifts; I provide a deeply specialized, evidence-based space to process these monumental turning points and help you safely navigate the evolution of your maternal identity.
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For those navigating acute change, deep grief, career pivots, relationship endings, or other turning points that leave you questioning who you are now and what comes next. I provide a gentle, enduring space to carry the profound emotional weight of loss, alongside active, collaborative support to help you manage the stress of major life adjustments and find a grounded path forward.
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For overthinking, perfectionism, avoidance, hopelessness, fatigue, and coping strategies that no longer serve you. Integrating evidence-based Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills and cognitive strategies, I treat a wide spectrum of mood concerns and complex behavioral patterns, from hoarding to emotional eating to substance use, helping you break out of old cycles and build emotional resilience.
Moving beyond the story
It’s easy to get pulled into the details of what happened or the intrusive thoughts collecting in your head. But insight alone doesn't always change how you feel.
True change requires moving past the narrative and working with what is happening underneath. In our sessions, we combine active, collaborative conversation with scientifically validated modalities, including EFT, IPT, DBT, and Prolonged Exposure, to safely process old wounds and disrupt the somatic and behavioral patterns that keep you feeling stuck.
Why this feels different
Many people come to me because therapy has felt too passive before, like they spent the hour talking but left without much movement. Others are reaching out after years of managing on their own, taking care of everyone else, or living inside patterns so familiar that it is hard to imagine a different way of being.
Therapy with me is warm, focused, and deeply collaborative. I draw from evidence-based frameworks that I am intimately familiar with over many years as a licensed clinical psychologist and researcher.
In our sessions, I take an active, attuned role. Together, we steadily move past surface-level details to address the root of complex emotional and behavioral patterns. Our work focuses on safely processing trauma, making sense of the deep-seated dynamics driving your relationships, and transforming the protective habits that no longer serve you.
I look forward to hearing from you. Let me know what’s bringing you in, and I’ll get back to you within 24–48 hours to talk about next steps.