Something in your life keeps asking for your attention.
Maybe it's showing up in your relationships, your sense of self, or a change that unsettled more than you expected. This is a place where things can shift, with someone who will be actively with you every step of the way.
I am Dr. Ali Pickover, a licensed clinical psychologist providing therapy for individuals and couples navigating trauma, relationship patterns, anxiety, self-doubt, and life transitions in New Jersey and New York. Sessions are currently available via secure telehealth.
What brings people here
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For past experiences that still follow you into the present, whether through fear, anxiety, numbness, guardedness, flashbacks, shame, or feeling unequipped to face life’s challenges.
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For healing after relationships that were abusive, controlling, or destabilizing, including intimidation, isolation, financial coercion, and chronic criticism.
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For recurring relationship issues like codependency, people-pleasing, resentment, emotional distance, or the painful sense that you keep losing yourself in relationships.
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For breakups, divorce, estrangement, betrayal, or the grief of letting go of the relationship or future you thought you were building.
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For fertility challenges, pregnancy loss, postpartum adjustment, birth trauma, and the uncharted path into parenthood.
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For change, grief, career shifts, family transitions, or other turning points that leave you questioning who you are now and what comes next.
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For overthinking, perfectionism, avoidance, hopelessness, fatigue, and coping strategies that no longer serve you.
Moving beyond the story
It’s easy to get pulled into the details of what happened or the intrusive thoughts collecting in your head. But understanding something doesn’t always change how it feels.
My focus is on what’s happening underneath, because that’s where patterns start to shift.
Why this feels different
Many people come to me because therapy has felt too passive before, like they spent the hour talking but left without much movement.
Others are reaching out after years of managing on their own, taking care of everyone else, or living inside patterns so familiar that it is hard to imagine something different.
In our sessions, I’m right there with you. I take an active role in helping you navigate what’s underneath:
The hurt beneath irritation.
The shame beneath shutdown.
How these experiences show up in your body and your relationships.
I look forward to hearing from you. Let me know what’s bringing you in, and I’ll get back to you within 24–48 hours to talk about next steps.